Growing from separation.

"Separation is painful, but so is its opposite. And if being together brings joy, then it is only proper that separation should do the same in its own way."

Hola,

This quote makes me reflect on the control over our feelings, objects, and human relationships. The affection for them can be as painful or joyful as we can perceive it. For me, it is proportional to the time and care I put into them. It is necessary to create separation, either to let this affection grow or to flourish new ideas, objects, or relationships. However, as long as I keep control over this, I can only expect nurturing results from this decision. It is not a new idea that to love is to let grow, so you can also grow with it.

When I no longer have control over the situation, my immediate reaction is to feel desperate and disappointed. I guess facing this situation from time to time is essential to remind myself that the beauty of life comes from chaos. I should control these feelings because only the control over my affection for them depends on me; the rest can change at any moment.

I will make a better effort at finding that special meaning from disagreements and failures. And as always, keeping attentive to all the unexpected beauty of life in my heart.

Find here a list of things I found worth sharing from last week:

1. Read. This comic about coping with pandemic numbness made by Connie Hanzhang Jin, whose job is based on checking corona deaths on a weekly basis. What a great way to funnel your feelings towards creating something powerful!
2. Watch. An exciting story about a teenage Mexican cumbia dancer in I'm No Longer Here. Different from the selection of films available in Mubi, where it seems that the ones which take place in the global south need to exploit poverty to get selected. I was pleased to find this film that treats poverty away from this white kinky perspective, but rather explores it as an environment where identity is built. Watch it on Netflix here.
3. Bath. At least once in your life in one of these beautiful Japanese Sento (bathhouses).
4. Talk.To strangers and use these "weak links" to have more meaningful conversations. Pay attention to the advice given in the key points section.
5. Enjoy. Watching these GIFs of guerilla greening. How lovely it would be to live in such a green urban space! 🌱
6. Cook. This delicious Tomato soup with a whole head of garlic before the weather gets too hot!
7. Build. your new identity and understand the complex process that takes place by reading this thoughtful article: Pizza, Pasta, and K-Pop by my friend Paola Laforgia. This piece is part of a larger project called Sonic Traces From Italy where the question of Italian Identity in music and sound is approached by the use of different media and techniques.
8. Level up. Your English language 😝. It took me a long time to feel comfortable with my English. Even though my English skills have still room to improve I felt identified with this article. I remember in several times to decided not to express myself because of fear of not being able to communicate my ideas in "perfect English". I highlight from this article that it gives native speakers tools to recognise and empower non-native ones to share their ideas.
9. Aww♥️. Remember to be always as brave as this turtle!

Thanks for reading and have a nice week!

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